If you are looking for a way to invest your college graduation money go to Amazon right now and order The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter–And How to Make the Most of Them Now by Meg Jay.
Why should I read this book? Reading this book will help you make sense of the universe! Well … your universe. For most of us the first twenty years of our lives follow a specific framework. Something similar to the one outlined below.
Step 1: Make good grades in school and get into college.
Step 2: Go to college and GRADUATE!
Step 3: Get a job? Start a career? Go for additional schooling? Travel?
Our existence has been so rigidly planned that once we get to step three, or hit a bump in the road, we don’t know what to do with ourselves. Not having a clear path or some sort of direction can be paralyzing and lead to stagnancy.
The Defining Decade helps one to think about what they want in life and helps outline some of the things that one needs to consider for that life. Jay, a clinical psychologist, shares what she has learned from years of working with twentysomethings. This isn’t a book of tips and tricks but of deep reflection. Through her research she comes to the conclusion that our twenties are meaningful despite the cultural status quo that the thirties are the new twenties.
What this means it that our time is not limitless. Here is an excerpt from the 2013 paperback edition.
“Your twenties matter. Eighty percent of life’s most defining moments take place by age thirty-five. Two-thirds of lifetime wage growth happens in the first ten years of a career. More than half of us are married, or dating, or living with our future partner, by age thirty. Personality changes more during our twenties than at any time
before or after. The brain caps off its last growth spurt in the twenties. Female fertility peaks at age twenty-eight.”
These are things most of us don’t consider as we are venturing out to shape ourselves. When reading this book you will find yourself saying, “That is exactly how I feel!” The three sections are shaped around the main aspects of one’s life: work, love, and the brain and body. Therefore, if you feel you have mastered one, you can skip to the section you feel you need insight on.
Have you ordered the book yet? If not, get on it! Tell me what part you most related to or what part you found most surprising?
Still haven’t decided if this book is worth a read. Check out Meg Jay’s TED Talk below.